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Post by milliepup04 on Jun 10, 2015 19:20:56 GMT
Oh I'm so sorry to hear about Neil's mum. {HUGS} to you. What an awful time you're going though!
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Post by smilesbetter on Jun 10, 2015 19:26:31 GMT
Oh @gillykat so sorry to hear about Neil's mum, he must be devistated, and to lose both his mother and Hattie (who as you said reminded him of his mum and might have been a slight comfort in that respect) in one week must be awful.
Hope you are both doing okay and that things start to look up for you guys soon! Thinking of you x
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Post by cazypops on Jun 10, 2015 19:28:54 GMT
Oh no, I'm sorry to read about Neil's mum. {{HUGS}} to you both. You will get through this togeather, and it will make you stronger. XX Caz
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Post by scallywag on Jun 10, 2015 19:46:31 GMT
. Your Mother, Your Angel
You look back on memories you forgot you had, And at times you'll smile even though it hurts so bad.
Your mother is a special woman and no one can take her place, You'll find a piece of mind when you remember he smiling face.
Your mother is an angel now she flies high above the rest, and in your hearts always and forever she will be the best.
She has earned her wings and it's time for her to fly, I know it hurts no one is ever ready to say good-bye.
She knows you do not understand and that you cry at night, But as you finally drift off to sleep let her memory hold you tight.
She will be your guardian angel through the rest of your life, Helping lead you on the path between what's wrong and right.
Your mother loves you so very much and her love will always remain true, Please don't ever think for a second that your mother will forget you.
A mothers love is like no other in the whole world, she has the most wonderful memories of a little boy
She has taken them with her as she's flown away, Up to Heaven free of pain which is her new home to stay.
So although you can not see her and you wish she could be there, Your mother can always hear you and your mother will always care.
A mother does not forget the two greatest loves of her life, And she loved nothing more than being your mummy, and your daddy's wife.
She is so proud of her family and that's in her heart to stay, Even though she's an angel and has had to fly away.
So as you cry your tears remember your mothers love, Being sent to you from her, from the beautiful Heaven above.
She will be there through your good times, she will be there through your bad, She'll be there when you are happy, she'll be there when your sad.
Your mother has become an angel now, it is her time to fly, And you will never know how bad it hurt her to watch you have to say good bye
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Post by Deleted on Jun 11, 2015 3:52:50 GMT
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Post by dutchkitties on Jun 11, 2015 8:56:28 GMT
I'm sorry you are having such an emotional time. All the best to Neil.
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Post by lotsofcats on Jun 11, 2015 8:57:19 GMT
So sad to hear about Neil's Mum - another sad loss for you so soon after Hattie.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 11, 2015 9:18:06 GMT
As long as nothing happens to Lily & Chilli next!!!! I'd be lost without those two
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Post by lotsofcats on Jun 11, 2015 10:01:52 GMT
As long as nothing happens to Lily & Chilli next!!!! I'd be lost without those two Lily and Chilli will be a great comfort to you.
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Post by tonib on Jun 11, 2015 23:29:02 GMT
So sorry to hear about Neil's mum @gillykat & from my mum's decline in the 90s I do understand what you mean about the loss really being 2 years ago. However that won't take away the emotional effect, especially on Neil, now its final, please pass on my sympathies. Hope he got some sleep and that Lily & Chilli are helping to comfort you both
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Post by Deleted on Jun 12, 2015 20:34:13 GMT
Yes, I think it's beginning to hit him now Funeral is on Tuesday 23rd and the autopsy showed that it was a blood clot that killed her, not a heart attack I think he'll be ok once the funeral is out of the way - I certainly found that after my brother's in 1998. It kind of drew a line under it all and we could then go from the initial shock to proper grieving and so begin the healing process.....or is it just me having had animals all my life and accepting that death is as much part and parcel as life? If that makes sense?
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Post by cazypops on Jun 13, 2015 10:23:28 GMT
Yes, I think it's beginning to hit him now Funeral is on Tuesday 23rd and the autopsy showed that it was a blood clot that killed her, not a heart attack I think he'll be ok once the funeral is out of the way - I certainly found that after my brother's in 1998. It kind of drew a line under it all and we could then go from the initial shock to proper grieving and so begin the healing process.... .or is it just me having had animals all my life and accepting that death is as much part and parcel as life? If that makes sense? No it's not just you, I felt the same when I lost my Dad in 2002 and again in 2009 when I lost my Mum. Both times it was expected but when it finally happened it was still a shock. I think my friend who lost her father last September thinks I'm a bit heartless as I never got to the chrem where their ashes are scattered, but I don't believe they are there, I'll rather do my talking to them at home while I'm doing the housework and dusting their photos. I say that life goes on, but you never stop missing them, you just learn to live with it. And that goes for my lost pets too.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2015 14:01:47 GMT
I don't think you're heartless sweetie (((HUGS))) Like you say, they're with you in spirit and you don't NEED to go to a cemetery and cry your eyes out to show how much you miss them Everyone has different ways of coping with death. When I lost my brother I was a wreck for about three weeks but then seemed to accept what had happened ( he caught a virus which led to hydrocephalus ....an incredibly rare occurance the coroner said) and 'moved on'....tho' I must admit I couldn't listen to Celine Dion on the radio for a good few years afterwards
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Post by migsy on Jun 13, 2015 19:30:27 GMT
Oh no!I can't believe you have suffered more terrible news gillycat,so very very sorry for you and Neil.Poor man,he must feel so cheated when his mums work was helping others,then to suffer such a cruel illness so soon in her life.There are a lot of memories which surface with just hearing a certain song gillycat,which can bring a lump to the throat. It's the most awful unreal feeling to lose a parent,I know I still miss mine terribly.But as you said,when the ordeal of the funeral is over,things will get calmer and Neil will accept his mum is in a better place and no longer suffering.We are left with wonderful memories to treasure,not only the sad ones,and even have a good laugh at some of them.Keep strong.
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Post by ebony on Jun 13, 2015 20:00:38 GMT
(((hugs @gillykat)))
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