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Post by blackcat95 on Jul 10, 2014 12:40:50 GMT
Hello, I am new to this forum and was just after some advice really.
Just over a week ago sadly one of our cats was hit by a car and passed away. Our other cat (her sister) is doing really well considering they have never been apart however she won't sleep in their bed or any places that they slept together.
We've bought her her own cushion and put in her fav place but I don't want to throw any of the other beds/blankets away as I don't want to upset her, shall I just leave them as they are for the time being?
She also seems much more affectionate towards us, is this normal for a cat whose just lost a close companion?
Any advice much appreciated
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Post by tonib on Jul 10, 2014 13:34:44 GMT
Welcome to the forum blackcat95. Hope you enjoy it here  So far, in our cat owning days, we've only lost one cat & that was to old age (nearly 18). The other cat we had at the time was much younger (3ish) and had only been with us a few months. I'm not sure he missed Chloe but more the company as we both worked at that time - although he could go out when we weren't there. We kept her beds etc., washed them & used them when we decided to et him some company after a couple of months. All of ours have been independent & never shared beds, so that wasn't an issue. Hopefully someone else with more experience of this can advise but I'd probably leave things where they are for the moment as the scents will still be there. Perhaps I should ask how old are they? |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 10, 2014 16:39:06 GMT
Yes, I would leave the beds as they are for another week or so and then gradually remove them one by one over a few days and perhaps spend more time with her - playing with her and just talking to her and telling her you know how upset she is feeling because you miss her sister too  I've been through this a lot of times over the past few years as we fostered old cats and whenever we lost one the others WOULD mourn their passing I always brought the cat home and laid them in their bed for a couple of hours so the others could say goodbye and realise that their companion had passed....I always felt that this helped them accept it better than if their companion had just disappeared  Whatever others who don't have animals may say, our pets DO mourn their companions - some more deeply than others I'm sure your wee lass will return back to her normal self given time (((HUGS)))  |
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Post by blackcat95 on Jul 10, 2014 20:23:49 GMT
Thankyou for the advice, I will keep everything as it is for now as I suppose it is still quite confusing for her. Fortunately the vets we took her sister to were very understanding and we brought her home in a box so her sister could sit with her for a while, I definitely think this helped. Sadly she was only three and a half years old so still young  but hopefully being so young might mean her sister can adapt a little easier |
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Post by tonib on Jul 10, 2014 23:59:31 GMT
I suspect at that age your cat will adapt easily blackcat95 and may well enjoy being the only cat. |
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Post by spider on Jul 13, 2014 10:21:53 GMT
sorry that u lost a little friend i cant be much help as we have only ever had one cat at a time but yes they like us miss there friends in time she will adapt to life as it is now lots of cuddles and tlc will help im sure
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I've been through this a lot of times over the past few years as we fostered old cats and whenever we lost one the others WOULD mourn their passing 
but hopefully being so young might mean her sister can adapt a little easier
