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Post by scallywag on Jul 26, 2024 22:06:04 GMT
so .. 4 years ago 3 months before Covid arrived my O.H finally decided to retire age 73 π·π€¬ Covid put an end to out retirement plans , what with 2 years of lock down.
Re wind 2 years and l noticed his memory was not as should be , took him to the doctors. Tests done and thoughts were he was showing early dementia signs But .. they would not confirm that for 2 years
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Post by tonib on Jul 26, 2024 22:09:26 GMT
Does that mean that they should be confirming (or not) now?
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Post by scallywag on Jul 26, 2024 22:13:22 GMT
2 years later ( wasted months ) they then decided to start treating him with meds π€¬π€¬π€¬ , as its exspensive they wanted to be sure before meds started. Please remember this post for you and your O.H sakes π those 2 years could have made a difference fir his memory Grrrr
I have just spent 20 mins persuading O.H to go up to bed. TV was on. Sane channel so he would not miss much, even thou .. we just sat thru over 5 hours of the opening of yhe olympics π€¦ββοΈ But if its keeping him happy then β¦ π€π€π€
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Post by scallywag on Jul 26, 2024 22:21:01 GMT
please forgive my typos , He retired but to what .? Im no longer a carer for my mum , instead l am for my husband. Its very hard seeing and coping and π€π€π€ to what he says , and not causing rows because he wont co ooerate.
Im finding myself no longer a wife , l am a carer, housekeeper, gardener, protector β¦ the list goes on.
If you spot unusual mood swings , memory probs get right on top of it . Do not let yr doctor make you wait 2 years xx xx
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Post by scallywag on Jul 26, 2024 22:23:02 GMT
Sorry but l just had to highlite this as its such a big change in life style , freedom and β¦ being tied to the home x
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Post by scallywag on Jul 26, 2024 22:30:29 GMT
tonib they confirmed it 2 years ago and l have been struggling now for a further 2 / 3 years. But kept info to myself mostly . I have had a person on here who reached out to me thou whose life seems to be running parallel with mine ( not with O.H ) thou One never knows whats ahead eh ? Xx
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Post by tonib on Jul 27, 2024 0:06:55 GMT
One definitely doesn't!!!! Take care of yourself as without doing that you can't care for others.
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Post by spider on Jul 27, 2024 5:05:43 GMT
Scallywags that's a sad read what a pity doctors hadn't acted sooner as well as caring for OH u really also need to care for yourself that's easy say but prob not as easy do because caring for someone is a full time 24/7 thing which leaves little u time it's not like me but I'm out of words because ther is no words just whenever u need support there is good friends here
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Post by chantel on Jul 27, 2024 14:41:16 GMT
I agree with tonib you really need to look after yourself too π₯° Nobody knows what anyone is going through behind closed doors , they may seem ok but you never know and some people are good at hiding things. It must be really tough for you scallywag , being a full time carer is really hard especially when itβs someone you really love so much π₯° My Aunt was my uncleβs full time carer for about 3 years before he passed away with asbestosis π₯²it was really hard for her because he would not accept any help from anyone else, caring for someone 24/7 and keeping on top of the house work/ garden etc is really hard and exhausting and you really need to find a little bit of time for yourself although I know you enjoy your painting πΌοΈ You need to concentrate on yourself and hubby, you have enough to deal with without taking on anyone elseβs problems. Please π look after yourself and know that we are all here for you to chat or have a rant . Sending big hugs π€ xxx
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Post by scallywag on Jul 27, 2024 17:44:36 GMT
You need to concentrate on yourself and hubby, you have enough to deal with without taking on anyone elseβs problems. Please π look after yourself and know that we are all here for you to chat or have a rant . Sending big hugs π€ xxx chantel , not taking on someone elseβs problems at all , its good to chat and we are supporting each other thru lifes sadness etc . Without that support and friendship these past 30 months l think l may have lost the will to live , as the saying goes , so THANK YOU , YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE XXX
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Post by chantel on Jul 27, 2024 18:42:04 GMT
You need to concentrate on yourself and hubby, you have enough to deal with without taking on anyone elseβs problems. Please π look after yourself and know that we are all here for you to chat or have a rant . Sending big hugs π€ xxx chantel , not taking on someone elseβs problems at all , its good to chat and we are supporting each other thru lifes sadness etc . Without that support and friendship these past 30 months l think l may have lost the will to live , as the saying goes , so THANK YOU , YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE XXX Thatβs good to know scallywag we are all here to support one another πthrough tough times. i have found you guys a big support through some dark times in my life π₯°we have a good little cyber family, just take care of yourself π₯°sending hugs π€ xxx
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Post by lotsofcats on Jul 28, 2024 19:24:57 GMT
We are here to support you, you know you can rant and rave anytime and we will listen. If we only help a little by doing this, it is something. Think if yourself too. Is there any help available from social services?
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