tiarosie
Settling in well!
Posts: 91
Pets I own: Rosie a Maine Coon, Red and Cream.Aged 4 year in (May2014), a BIG quiet girl, and TiaMaria a Black Russian years on (Nov 2013) who is amazing fun.
Sadly Tia was killed in July 2014 by a car.
My son has Parkinsons and lives 2 miles from me. I got him RILEY a black stray 2year old in February 2014, but from a rescue 14 months ago.Very involved with him !
Pebbles age unknown, thrown out of a car, went to my daughter. Also involved with him ! ALL are adorable and so different.
Now (OCT 2014) have a kitten called Lilyana. She looks like her Mum, a Russian Blue. Her Dad is a Rag Doll. She was born on 24/07/2014....the day my darling Tia was killed on the road.
This was meant to be and she is helping me grieve for Tia. Lilyana is delightful.Rosie is now taking to her
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Post by tiarosie on May 13, 2013 15:18:17 GMT
There are only 4 houses in our little courtyard. I have been here 23years, Margaret (80 yrs) has been here 20 years. Over the years I have had many cats mostly persians and she has enjoyed them without complaint, though they DID toilet in her garden at times. I bought Rosie my Maine Coon 3 years ago, then Tia (small black russian) 2 years ago. I started letting them out, as it is safe, about 15 months ago. Rosie comes in to use the litter tray but Tia much prefers going outside.
The gardens have no fences so she has toileted in Margarets plants, which she disturbs by digging. Margaret has REALLY taken against her. She fusses over Rosie who often sits beside her, but ignores Tia. She shoos her away, refers to her as "That black one" or "It" . Tia goes over and rolls in front of her as Rosie does, but gets shunned. I have explained to Margaret that Tia does not connect the way she is treating her with her toileting. She just says Tia is wilder than my previous cats and is sly. She really is not. She is exceptionally friendly and loving with everyone and other cats.
She has put down everything possible to deter her, including lion dung, and uses a water pistol to move her. (I don't mind that), but nothing works.
I DON'T think she finds her pretty like my previous cats and Rosie. Tia's faeces are tiny and she DOES NOT MIND moving them, but hates her plants being disturbed.
I am maybe being daft, but it really hurts watching Tia being shunned. Any Advise or comments ? PLEASE.
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Post by tonib on May 13, 2013 23:29:35 GMT
I wonder if the issue is that as Margaret has got older she finds it difficult to bend to clear the poo or do the gardening. From your comments it sounds as if Tia is usig her garden more than your previous cats.
Also I wonder if there is anything about black cats that she doesn't like, they are often the ones that are unpopular despite being classed as lucky in some regions.
Is there any way you can get a more popular toilet area for Tia in your garden? Not sure what that might be though.
It's a shame that Tia is being shunned but it may well be difficult to persuade her to feel differently unless you can get to the bottom of the problem. That may be difficult whilst still keeping Margaret as a good friend & neighbour. Wish I could be of more help.
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Post by migsy on May 13, 2013 23:41:24 GMT
Some older people can become a bit bossy and outspoken,but the cat pooing near her flowers does sound a problem for her and she is showing it.It's a bit childish to fuss the other cats and ignore Tia.Offer to clear it up for her,you can't do more than that,as it's what cats do. We have a cat in our area who is a prolific bird killer,I use the fine spray of the hose to shoo it away as I wouldn't dream of harming the cat.
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Post by lotsofcats on May 14, 2013 8:51:48 GMT
Poor Tia - how horrible of the woman to be nice to one cat and ignore the other one. The only suggestion I have is to dig some of your garden over as cats love doing their business in a freshly dug bit of soil, then dig it every day - just disturb the soil a bit so it always looks freshly dug and hopefully Tia will change her toileting area. I would also suggest offering to clean up Tia's mess and tidy the plants for her. Is there anything on the market that can be sprayed to deter cats? I've heard that orange peel deters them but I have never put it to the test.
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Post by heartpawprints on May 14, 2013 11:37:19 GMT
The sad truth is that she has not taken to Tia. My only suggestion for neighbourly harmony is just to say to her, let me know when she's done anything and I'll clear it up - that may assuage some of the age related issues for her. I think some people just become dead set against an animal and although won't act to harm it wont' act to befriend it.
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Post by migsy on May 14, 2013 12:47:21 GMT
lotsofcats; Aha!!!thanks for the reminder about orange peel,meant to try it as I read recently that cats hate the smell of it.I will leave some where our bird killer waits to ambush them. It's sad the lady is kind to the other cats but not Tia,just as upsetting as someone favouring one child against a sibling,I can understand you feeling a bit hurt Tiarosie.
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tiarosie
Settling in well!
Posts: 91
Pets I own: Rosie a Maine Coon, Red and Cream.Aged 4 year in (May2014), a BIG quiet girl, and TiaMaria a Black Russian years on (Nov 2013) who is amazing fun.
Sadly Tia was killed in July 2014 by a car.
My son has Parkinsons and lives 2 miles from me. I got him RILEY a black stray 2year old in February 2014, but from a rescue 14 months ago.Very involved with him !
Pebbles age unknown, thrown out of a car, went to my daughter. Also involved with him ! ALL are adorable and so different.
Now (OCT 2014) have a kitten called Lilyana. She looks like her Mum, a Russian Blue. Her Dad is a Rag Doll. She was born on 24/07/2014....the day my darling Tia was killed on the road.
This was meant to be and she is helping me grieve for Tia. Lilyana is delightful.Rosie is now taking to her
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Post by tiarosie on May 14, 2013 20:22:20 GMT
Thank you all. Although Margaret is much older than me I am the one who cannot do my garden due to osteo-arthritis,and she still does hers. Bending down is not a problem for her. I have offered to remove any soiling but she won't let me ! I also offered to buy any product she thought would help, but she said she had tried everything. The ones I suggested she did not want, including orange peal. She said that would be unsightly. I offered to replace any plants too but she said not to bother. My garden is in slabs, with pebbles and pots. There are 2 communal plots, which she loves tending, but Tia won't go there. She only soils in Margarets once a day at the most and does not always disturb the plants. I think she dislikes black cats and has just taken against her. I won't fall out with her about this. She has always had funny ways which I choose to ignore and live with. Tia looks SO confused when Margaret is fussing Rosie and ignoring her efforts to be stroked and spoken to. It does feel like having one child loved and the other hurt ! Ah well, I will just have to live with it I suppose. I am glad you understand how I feel though, so thank you all very much.
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Post by cazypops on May 14, 2013 21:39:34 GMT
Oh thats such a shame, some people get so stubborn as they get older. Have you thought of getting her some flowers from Tia? silly but you never know. I've tried the orange peel, and it doesn't work. But my mum use to put old pop bottles with water in them in her flower beds, she swore the reflection they caused scared the cats away. Not sure myself though.
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Post by heartpawprints on May 15, 2013 12:16:15 GMT
Erm, plan b. Can you maybe just tell her outright that she is being v. unreasonable and not very kind? Harsh I know but sometimes hard headed people respond as well to that as gentle reasoning.
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Post by daintipawz on May 15, 2013 19:23:41 GMT
Poor Tia, I feel so sorry for her, she wont understand why she is being shoo'd away or why Margaret hates her so much when she will fuss Rosie. I feel so sad for her, it just seems so cruel for this lady to react in this way. I can understand her not wanting cats toileting in her garden especially on her plants as cat wee will kill the plants.I don't particularly like neighbours cats using my garden as a toilet as mine are all indoor cats but I never shoo them away. Maybe explain to her that Tia just wont understand why she fusses Rosie and when Tia rolls over in front of her just like Rosie she doesn't react to her the same way and it is hurtful for you and for Tia, poor Tia must be so confused as to why she is cruel to her.
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Post by dutchkitties on May 16, 2013 9:01:32 GMT
I'm so sorry for Tia. My first thought was her colour, though I cannot imagine that people don't like black cats. It cannot be her attitude as Tia wants to be friends. You offered what you can. Your neighbour must tell you the reason of her dislike.
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