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Dec 30, 2013 12:07:51 GMT
Post by katherine on Dec 30, 2013 12:07:51 GMT
So even though as times you may feel exhausted with Lucas, it will pass  Make sure you take a bit of time away from him as well if you can, even an hour away from him can make you feel so much better! I hope so, I really do. Yes even in the house I need a little time away from him, so we are trying to teach him to lie nicely on his bed while mum and dad have some time too. But he whines lots and I feel so bad. Liam tells me its just because he wants constant attention but I cant help but feel bad. Naturally, its like being a mum when your baby cries. When we first got him we both felt like we HAD to be around him 24/7. He lay quite nice last night not whining so much but it was probably just a good night. Thankyou for your welcome scallywag, Springers are lush! x |
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Post by BorderTerrier on Dec 30, 2013 12:09:52 GMT
Cool avatar and signature by the way katherine! |
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Post by katherine on Dec 30, 2013 12:14:03 GMT
Thanks! I thought it looked quite nice. |
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Post by scallywag on Dec 30, 2013 12:23:52 GMT
Katherine don't feel bad ! It is attention seeking and if you give in now he will win ! You have to shut your mind away, he will get fed up, gladys may have more to add she has just acquired a brand new puppy called skala  |
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Dec 30, 2013 12:29:16 GMT
Post by katherine on Dec 30, 2013 12:29:16 GMT
I think at first I seen it has him literally crying... as in he was sad crying, but Liam said it wasn't because he was sad but it was more like him calling for our attention.
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Post by gladys on Dec 30, 2013 12:29:29 GMT
Katherine don't feel bad ! It is attention seeking and if you give in now he will win ! You have to shut your mind away, he will get fed up, gladys may have more to add she has just acquired a brand new puppy called skala Did someone tag me??  katherine do you put lucas in a crate? I have crate trained both my Bostons and it's been a life saver. Skala will settle most of the time in her crate but has started to rip up her newspaper (the crate has a pen with pup pads and paper down) when we put her in at certain times of the day. When we eat, when I need to do housework etc, sometimes she will settle straight away and other times we have a bit of a noise and ripping of paper, I ignore all of it and she then gives up and sleeps or plays with some toys I have i her crate. If the crying upsets you put headphones on and listen to music or shut doors. Puppies have to learn to be in their own company. |
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Post by katherine on Dec 30, 2013 12:39:18 GMT
We have not bought him a crate yet but we are looking into it. I think it will be loads easier for us all. Yeah I imagine they would get bored eventually, I think I can just be too soft at times. I wouldn't be so bothered if we had a crate with toys and pads in. But yes, he does need to learn to have time on his own as well as with us. I've just got to think to myself I'm not abandoning him and that it is healthy, its not as if hes unloved!
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Dec 30, 2013 12:47:20 GMT
Post by gladys on Dec 30, 2013 12:47:20 GMT
We have not bought him a crate yet but we are looking into it. I think it will be loads easier for us all. Yeah I imagine they would get bored eventually, I think I can just be too soft at times. I wouldn't be so bothered if we had a crate with toys and pads in. But yes, he does need to learn to have time on his own as well as with us. I've just got to think to myself I'm not abandoning him and that it is healthy, its not as if hes unloved! A crate will give him a a safe place and you can leave him without worrying about what he may be getting up too.  A short time on their own is good for them, especially if you slowly build the time up. As long as they are feed, watered, exercised, warm and dry then they are ok to be left. How is Lucus with the puppy biting? Skala is like a Piranha when shes in "The Zone"!!  |
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Dec 30, 2013 13:18:47 GMT
Post by tonib on Dec 30, 2013 13:18:47 GMT
Hi katherine, I know I'm no longer an expert on dogs (too many year to mention since I lived with one) but speaking from recent experience of cats, its not just for you that you need time away from Lucas but also for his sake. He needs to understand that you are not at his beck & call (well except for access to the outside for toileting) otherwise you will be creating a very clingy, dependent dog. Of course he needs plenty of attention & training as well Due to issues integrating our latest cat (adopted nearly 2 years ago) she needed to be distracted/entertained whenever she was being a pain with the other 3. Now she expects us to be at her beck & call - "I want attention, if I don't get it I'll be a pain with the others or pester you to distraction" I don;t think she's being nasty just easily bored Edit: sorry seem to have repeated what others have said - got interrupted in typing this |
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Dec 30, 2013 13:19:39 GMT
Post by katherine on Dec 30, 2013 13:19:39 GMT
We have not bought him a crate yet but we are looking into it. I think it will be loads easier for us all. Yeah I imagine they would get bored eventually, I think I can just be too soft at times. I wouldn't be so bothered if we had a crate with toys and pads in. But yes, he does need to learn to have time on his own as well as with us. I've just got to think to myself I'm not abandoning him and that it is healthy, its not as if hes unloved! A crate will give him a a safe place and you can leave him without worrying about what he may be getting up too. A short time on their own is good for them, especially if you slowly build the time up. As long as they are feed, watered, exercised, warm and dry then they are ok to be left. How is Lucus with the puppy biting? Skala is like a Piranha when shes in "The Zone"!! He tries to nibble. It's funny you say that because he just caught me with a sharp tooth before. In saying that he tries to chew/eat loads of things and its getting a bit of a nightmare. cant get him to put stuff down on walks and even when i try to open his mouth hes is a stubborn as a mule and keeps it tight closed. Arrrgh! |
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Dec 30, 2013 13:26:29 GMT
Post by katherine on Dec 30, 2013 13:26:29 GMT
Hi katherine, I know I'm no longer an expert on dogs (too many year to mention since I lived with one) but speaking from recent experience of cats, its not just for you that you need time away from Lucas but also for his sake. He needs to understand that you are not at his beck & call (well except for access to the outside for toileting) otherwise you will be creating a very clingy, dependent dog. Of course he needs plenty of attention & training as well He does get a lot of attention, but when we put him in the other room with his bed and toys, when we close the door for time away he pees and whines because we are in a different room  I don't know whether he thinks its because were abandoning him or what but we can't seem to keep the door closed without him peeing which is quite frustrating. That is why I think a crate could possibly help because then we'd be able to keep him in the same room without him running about wild. He would still be able to see us, but he wouldn't be next to us seeking constant attention all the time. I don't know I find i'm a little lost with things sometimes. |
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Dec 30, 2013 13:43:25 GMT
Post by scallywag on Dec 30, 2013 13:43:25 GMT
A crate and being able to see you in my opinion would be best, he's not actually with you, he can see you, shut in a room alone  don't think I could do that and certainly not for a long period of time. Beau gets put in a room on his own if he starts up, he has mad moments when he will just bark and keep going for my ankles, attention seeking, so he gets put in the naughty room for 5 mins till he's calmed down. That works, but I would never shut him in more than that x |
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Post by cazypops on Dec 30, 2013 18:27:58 GMT
Hi katherine, I know I'm no longer an expert on dogs (too many year to mention since I lived with one) but speaking from recent experience of cats, its not just for you that you need time away from Lucas but also for his sake. He needs to understand that you are not at his beck & call (well except for access to the outside for toileting) otherwise you will be creating a very clingy, dependent dog. Of course he needs plenty of attention & training as well He does get a lot of attention, but when we put him in the other room with his bed and toys, when we close the door for time away he pees and whines because we are in a different room I don't know whether he thinks its because were abandoning him or what but we can't seem to keep the door closed without him peeing which is quite frustrating. That is why I think a crate could possibly help because then we'd be able to keep him in the same room without him running about wild. He would still be able to see us, but he wouldn't be next to us seeking constant attention all the time. I don't know I find i'm a little lost with things sometimes. have you considered getting a baby gate? That way you can put him in his room but he can still see you, also try giving him a stuffed Kong to keep him occupied during these time. The peeing could be a sign of separation anxiety.  |
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Post by gladys on Dec 30, 2013 18:33:18 GMT
Yeah a baby gate works well here between the lounge and the kitchen. I end up with 2 dogs and a cat sitting watching me through the bars!! |
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Post by caz2golden on Dec 30, 2013 19:04:47 GMT
Surly sitting behind a gate would be beneath the cat? !!!
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Make sure you take a bit of time away from him as well if you can, even an hour away from him can make you feel so much better!
I don't know whether he thinks its because were abandoning him or what but we can't seem to keep the door closed without him peeing which is quite frustrating. That is why I think a crate could possibly help because then we'd be able to keep him in the same room without him running about wild. He would still be able to see us, but he wouldn't be next to us seeking constant attention all the time.
don't think I could do that and certainly not for a long period of time.
