tiarosie
Settling in well!
Posts: 91
Pets I own: Rosie a Maine Coon, Red and Cream.Aged 4 year in (May2014), a BIG quiet girl, and TiaMaria a Black Russian years on (Nov 2013) who is amazing fun.
Sadly Tia was killed in July 2014 by a car.
My son has Parkinsons and lives 2 miles from me. I got him RILEY a black stray 2year old in February 2014, but from a rescue 14 months ago.Very involved with him !
Pebbles age unknown, thrown out of a car, went to my daughter. Also involved with him ! ALL are adorable and so different.
Now (OCT 2014) have a kitten called Lilyana. She looks like her Mum, a Russian Blue. Her Dad is a Rag Doll. She was born on 24/07/2014....the day my darling Tia was killed on the road.
This was meant to be and she is helping me grieve for Tia. Lilyana is delightful.Rosie is now taking to her
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Post by tiarosie on Dec 1, 2016 11:05:25 GMT
I have Rosie 5years, Lilyana 2 years. They are 95% indoors. Son Stuart lives 2 miles away with Riley 3 years (Moggie) Stuart has Parkinsons and going through a bad spell so came to my house 10 days ago. We have gone over daily to feed, cuddle and on some days let him out. He can go away for hours so some days have gone back twice to try getting him in. There are no neighbours nearby. Because he shows that he misses company most we felt he was alone too long so brought him here yesterday. He was in Stuarts room all day. At 10pm I put my cats in the kitchen. They stay there all night happily. We then let Riley out to roam the house all night. He loved that BUT kept battering the kitchen door to get in AND running up and down stairs, jumping onto Stuart every 10 minutes ! Result...Stuart with little sleep. Not good. He tried shutting him in the living room but he just howled. I have two neighbours, one a nurse on shifts so I can't let him howl ! I have a chest cold so was hoping to avoid driving. (Stuart can't now) Any ideas ?? Love them all but can't think what to do.
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Post by scallywag on Dec 1, 2016 12:50:11 GMT
Can't Riley sleep in Stuarts room with door shut ? what's the difference during the day that makes him content to stay with Stuart all day ? Does he get on with Rosie and Lilyana ? can he not sleep in there ? or is it case that he / she's have not been done ( you know what I mean ) Have you got plenty of Rileys familiar things there with you in your house ? Hope someone else can suggest something I'm not a cat owner so maybe talking rubbish
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Post by lotsofcats on Dec 1, 2016 13:52:15 GMT
I think you should try as scallywag said to put Riley in Stuart's room at night and let him in other parts of the house in the day. I think that Riley is very unsettled at the moment. Have you tried introducing Riley gradually to the other cats? Obviously he is very interested in them. It is early days and I think Riley will eventually settle but he doesn't really understand what is going on at the moment. Also, as scallywag said, get some of Riley's blankets and toys for him and let the other cats smell them to get used to him.
Great suggestions scallywag, we'll turn you into a cat owner yet!
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tiarosie
Settling in well!
Posts: 91
Pets I own: Rosie a Maine Coon, Red and Cream.Aged 4 year in (May2014), a BIG quiet girl, and TiaMaria a Black Russian years on (Nov 2013) who is amazing fun.
Sadly Tia was killed in July 2014 by a car.
My son has Parkinsons and lives 2 miles from me. I got him RILEY a black stray 2year old in February 2014, but from a rescue 14 months ago.Very involved with him !
Pebbles age unknown, thrown out of a car, went to my daughter. Also involved with him ! ALL are adorable and so different.
Now (OCT 2014) have a kitten called Lilyana. She looks like her Mum, a Russian Blue. Her Dad is a Rag Doll. She was born on 24/07/2014....the day my darling Tia was killed on the road.
This was meant to be and she is helping me grieve for Tia. Lilyana is delightful.Rosie is now taking to her
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Post by tiarosie on Dec 1, 2016 13:53:26 GMT
Hi scallywag, The three cats have never met. This morning Lilyana went into Stuarts room and she and Riley looked at each other. He also mewed a couple of times. As soon as he moved she she away but they both seemed quite calm. Rosies' only memory of another cat was one who really beat her up and has never met another in the lst 3 years. She did go upstairs and around the house so must smell him.All are neutered but they need to be introduced slowly. If we shut Riley in Stuarts room he will jump on him all night and he needs his sleep. All his things are here. Thanks for trying to help xxx
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Post by scallywag on Dec 1, 2016 14:16:47 GMT
Do you have his cat carrier ? maybe have him in that for a little whilst the other cats can see him and vise versa ?
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Post by tonib on Dec 1, 2016 18:08:43 GMT
tiarosie I thnk the suggestions you've had are good ones. I appreciate for all concerned, especialy for the resident 2 cats, that introductions are gradual but perhaps a word with the neighbours about the situation might make them accept any noise for a short priod whilst Riley settles. You may also find that if Riley has more exercise/freedom during the day he might be be calmer overnight & hence your son would be able to sleep. What is Riley's normal woutine when at your son's home? I presume he is allowed out which isn't an option, at least until he accepts your home as his, but does he have a pattern & would that normally let your son sleep at night? If so could you replicate that, replacing outside time with play? One option, if it is likely that your son would soon recover from this set-back & be going home again , might be consider a staay for Riley at a cattery. I know that it isn't an ideal solution but mightenable your son to recover & for Riley to be well looked after & potentiallly not be stressed or stress your cats. Obviously if this likely to be a longer term stay with you then a cattery probably wouldn't be a viable option. I hope for all concerned you can find some solution.
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tiarosie
Settling in well!
Posts: 91
Pets I own: Rosie a Maine Coon, Red and Cream.Aged 4 year in (May2014), a BIG quiet girl, and TiaMaria a Black Russian years on (Nov 2013) who is amazing fun.
Sadly Tia was killed in July 2014 by a car.
My son has Parkinsons and lives 2 miles from me. I got him RILEY a black stray 2year old in February 2014, but from a rescue 14 months ago.Very involved with him !
Pebbles age unknown, thrown out of a car, went to my daughter. Also involved with him ! ALL are adorable and so different.
Now (OCT 2014) have a kitten called Lilyana. She looks like her Mum, a Russian Blue. Her Dad is a Rag Doll. She was born on 24/07/2014....the day my darling Tia was killed on the road.
This was meant to be and she is helping me grieve for Tia. Lilyana is delightful.Rosie is now taking to her
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Post by tiarosie on Dec 2, 2016 10:01:46 GMT
Thank you ALL so much. I showed Riley to Rosie with me holding him about 5 feet away. She was lying on the back of a chair. She hissed at him. He hissed back so I went away but it spooked him and he struggled to get down. I held him tighter so he scratched me and I let go and he shot up to his room. Stuart went after him and tried to stroke him and got bitten as he was stressed. He has never done either before. We realised he had just very lightly scratched me and the bite was a tiny warning one. Riley has the sweetest nature and adores us both, especially Stuart. We felt really proud of him. He wanted to flee from Rosie fast as she is 6 lbs heavier than him and my walking was too slow for his perceived danger. He clearly knew he wanted to be left alone to calm down, not stroked. They teach us don't they ?
We opted for taking him back to Stuarts house and visiting daily again.Stuart really needed to sleep last night. The ambulance collected him at 8.30am to have a 5 hour check up at hospital which involves loads of tests and seeing different staff. It is a long tiring day but necessary.
He was an inpatient as an emergency over last weekend with breathing problems. I get a bit stressed and over-tired trying to do too much, but can have a few quiet hours now...then go over to Riley and back before Stuart comes home. I hope Stuart will be able to go back to his own home soon but have to play it by ear each day.
Again THANK YOU. I really appreciated your advise and support.
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Post by scallywag on Dec 2, 2016 10:04:48 GMT
what happens if you was to just leave them to find their own space / corner would there be all hell let loose do you think ? Good luck with the visit and have a nice rest {{{HUGS}}} we are here if you just want to chat and vent, please never forget that tiarosieI know tonib cats do not all get along but manages somehow
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Post by tonib on Dec 2, 2016 12:39:12 GMT
scallywag our cats go out so that helps, as both Osiris & Roman can hence avoid Lexie when they really get stressed by her presence/behaviour but it is at the expense of their company on occasions. She was not our best decision One of the reasons she has her own room for mealtimes & overnight, to give the others a stress free time, although not sure if that makes her worse during the day but we know that if she had the freedom of the house overnight she'd want to share our bed & that would mean the boys would really put the cat amongst the pigeonscats! I seriously think Osiris would then move outside permanently, except for food. But tiarosie's situation is different as Riley in her home is only a temporary measure & can't go out, which as I suspect he is used to doing so, may also add into the stressful situation for him which could affect his behaviour with the other 2. We introduced Lexie to the others (3 then) over several weeks following the advice we'd been given by the rescue when we adopted the othes, but that still didn't help, but then Lexie didn't come from the rescue.
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