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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2015 7:39:25 GMT
I would suggest her getting in touch with a local charity and asking if they had any cats in need of long-term fostering like I was doing for PARRT. Perhaps even short-term fostering until somebody adopts the cat...I'm sure the charity would help out with food and litter
I always took the old or terminally-ill cats and the charity paid any vet bills. Linda (lady who ran the charity) kept offering me food and litter too but I refused these as I'd rather money go on the cats instead. Neil and I would have had a cat anyway so would have had to fork out for litter and food....it was just the vet bills we couldn't afford to take on We found it to be a really satisfying way to help cats in need
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Post by Roo on Jun 25, 2015 9:36:08 GMT
Maybe if she had her own cat, it would serve as a deterrent for your cat? I know cats are territorial, but I don't know if your cat is as bold as the ones in my street (who seem to purposely plant themselves into any the cat's patch and fight at all hours)!
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helendann
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Pets I own: Jemima - tortoiseshell cat, aged about 4
Mae - silver tabby cat, aged about 2
RIP Hamble, aged about 4, who came to us with Jemima, but died from FAT only a year after we adopted her
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Post by helendann on Sept 22, 2015 18:13:43 GMT
I would say this lady is over-stepping the mark. I was in a similar position to her a few years ago. Two cats kept turning up, wandering into our house when the patio doors were open in summer, and we petted them and worried about them because we weren't sure if they were strays or had owners. Anyway, long story short, I went ringing on doors of local houses and eventually tracked down the owner. She explained that her two cats had a history of wandering into other people's houses, and this had got worse recently because there had been a fire at the house, so the family were sleeping at a family member's house but leaving the cats there (with food/cat flap access etc). She was quite happy with the situation - I mean, she expressly said she was quite happy for us to invite her cats into our house for some affection or a nap if we wanted to!
But it did reach the point where they spent more time at our house than the house where they lived, so we knew we had to put a stop to it - we felt hugely guilty, apart from anything else, and very selfish. We hated saying goodbye to those two cats, but we knew it was for the best. And so we adopted two rescue cats. Have never seen the two visitor cats since, but I'm sure they're okay, as it became apparent to us that they had a nice home, which made it more important for us to give a home to cats that actually needed one.
Not much help to you, I know, but this isn't at all uncommon - I have several friends whose cats have wandered off and treated other people's homes like their personal hotels/snack bars!
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Post by heartpawprints on Jan 23, 2016 21:20:51 GMT
I think I will have to play devil's advocate here. At the end of the day, your cat is free to chose where he fancies staying for a while. He is safe and you know where to find him. I think you're being a bit precious and treating him as though he is your possession. I think your actions are setting up a tug of war situation.
I agree that the couple are seeming to be disingenuous with you, i.e. hiding the food bowl but unless you get a sniff of them moving from the area, then really what is the problem? You can explain to your daughter that this is the nature of cats and it's not a personal slight. And you also need to realise this too.
I'm sorry if this has annoyed / upset you but I've been accused of cat stealing - when my cat flap was open for my own cat and her's chose to come for a visit.
I had no ill intent/agenda with this cat and I don't think it is right for you to suspect/infer one from this lady. In my case it was her that left the street and abandoned him, leaving behind a very heartbroken and confused cat whom she'd screeched at me she'd had since she was a kitten prior to her vanishing.
If you're hoping to sell up and move, well,in theory that will be the end of the matter.
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loz
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Post by loz on Jan 24, 2016 15:20:54 GMT
Yes my cat has his own free will and we haven't seen him since 22nd October last year. This lady doesn't have her own cat, so he is not entering via her cat flap as I have been round to her house & seen that they don't have one. She admitted she left her conservatory door slightly open while they went away for the weekend so he could still come in. She does however only ring me when he needs to go to the vets & I get the bill - perhaps I should just hand him over if he prefers to live there and then cancel his insurance policy as well. We are actually putting our house on the market, so I'll just phone her and tell her he's due a check-up at the vets, collect him and take him with us.
On the otherhand we have had a new neighbour move in next door who has 3 black cats that are now feeling their paws and terrorizing my other 2 cats. One came home very scared with her tail bleeding which turned into an abcess - more vets bills - and is now too scared to go outside as these cats spend most of their time in our garden. I've not encouraged them and have to take up our cats food during the day and block the cat flap up at night, but the other cats still hang around. My husband thinks that cats are more trouble than their worth!
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Post by tonib on Jan 25, 2016 2:36:16 GMT
Sorry to hear you haven't seen your cat since October loz, I assume you know he's Ok & just with the other lady. It sounds like your house move will solve a number of issues for you. Its a real shame when other cats cause problems for your own cats in their garden.
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Post by heartpawprints on Feb 9, 2016 19:54:48 GMT
Yes my cat has his own free will and we haven't seen him since 22nd October last year. This lady doesn't have her own cat, so he is not entering via her cat flap as I have been round to her house & seen that they don't have one. She admitted she left her conservatory door slightly open while they went away for the weekend so he could still come in. She does however only ring me when he needs to go to the vets & I get the bill - perhaps I should just hand him over if he prefers to live there and then cancel his insurance policy as well. We are actually putting our house on the market, so I'll just phone her and tell her he's due a check-up at the vets, collect him and take him with us. On the otherhand we have had a new neighbour move in next door who has 3 black cats that are now feeling their paws and terrorizing my other 2 cats. One came home very scared with her tail bleeding which turned into an abcess - more vets bills - and is now too scared to go outside as these cats spend most of their time in our garden. I've not encouraged them and have to take up our cats food during the day and block the cat flap up at night, but the other cats still hang around. My husband thinks that cats are more trouble than their worth! I really feel for you and your cats if you've got new neighbours whose cats are terrorising yours. I've had a couple of likely lads (stray toms) knocking around and between me and next door neighbour we've been to the vet's with bits from these miscreants. I hope your cat has turned up. It would seem though the old lady is now taking the STOP SWEARING if she's only phoning you about vet bills - she wants the cat but none of the financial responsibility which is not on. I've got my fingers crossed that you sell your house soon and can resolve the situation positively.
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Post by heartpawprints on Feb 9, 2016 19:57:08 GMT
ha ha... STOP SWEARING in capitals wasn't me... For that phrase think of the colloquial for urine.
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loz
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Post by loz on Feb 9, 2016 20:03:42 GMT
ha ha... STOP SWEARING in capitals wasn't me... For that phrase think of the colloquial for urine. lol, thanks I know exactly what you mean
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Post by lotsofcats on Feb 10, 2016 11:55:53 GMT
If you are selling your house and moving that will solve the problem. If you do and you go and get your cat please tell the woman that you are moving or even ask her if she wants the cat if you are willing to do this. You'd have to be sure that she would then care for your cat properly and be willing to take him to the vet. It is unfair of her just to contact you when he needs to go to the vet.
Awful that your cats are having trouble from new cats next door. The only thing you can do is to shoo them out of your garden every time you see them, just clap your hands at them, this usually works. Hopefully they will get fed up of coming into your garden.
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Post by spider on Feb 28, 2016 7:31:45 GMT
Love ur cats names cats can have several homes they will wander between them and even though u and ur children love this fellow i really dont know how u can make him stay if he really wants to be 3 doors down and its possibe her fault that she also started feeding him and pherhaps in time he might come home but short of locking him in i dont know what to say i would hate my fellow to do that to me i found a lovely big black cat in my garden and someone told me dont feed him and hw will go home and he did but when u dont know if he is hungry its hard to not put down a little food and without planning u could have another cat and most cats just arrive they find us and we dont know there history and prob when we do the cat has now decided to stay how do u run a cat
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Post by Pawsforthought on Mar 1, 2016 21:43:15 GMT
I'm not a cat owner, and my only experiences with cats are that I had a (beloved) psycho semi-feral cat when I was younger and I have recently read 'Cat Sense.' One thing the author said was that sometimes cats just choose a different owner and it can be for a number of reasons. It's hard to come to terms with that, but I'm sure it's nothing to do with yourselves and he hasn't just abandoned you, cats don't know that they're supposed to be 'owned.' But anyway, one thing I thought was does he totally get on with the other cats in your household? John Bradshaw, the author of the book, said signs as subtle as a lack of any grooming between cats and/or a cat leaving a room when another enters can signify an unhappy cat, they don't have to be fighting. The other thing I thought is does he have his own space in your house and plenty of places in the house to climb up etc?
Again, I have VERY limited experience with cats and I'm not saying at all that I know anything, just thought I'd make suggestions based on what I've read.
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Post by lovemycats on Aug 25, 2017 18:10:02 GMT
Hi loz, please explain.
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