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Post by Pawsforthought on Mar 26, 2013 21:49:44 GMT
Am I the only one who feels as if I can't express my opinions quite as bluntly any more? Not that I want to shove them down everyone's throats, but I miss the feeling that I can debate about things without it hurting people's feelings. It might just be all the new members, and once I'm a bit more familiar with them I'll probably be back to my old moany self again  I also notice some members haven't really been posting. I still can't shake the strong feeling that this forum has been ruined for me  |
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Post by puppypal on Mar 26, 2013 21:58:34 GMT
This forum is a lot quiter than the old YD forum, there are hardly any new threads and posts, this forum is a bit more unfriendly and uninviting than the old YD forum on there we were a community and put up with everyones opinions and accepted them ( well i learnt the hard way)
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Post by Pawsforthought on Mar 26, 2013 22:01:34 GMT
I definitely count you as a valued member of the YD oldies, puppypal  |
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Post by Weims on Mar 26, 2013 22:47:59 GMT
I agree, I think with so many people(YD and YC now being one forum) there are so many new threads...I think we have to re-learn the forum a bit, if that makes sense?
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Post by Avansa on Mar 27, 2013 11:44:06 GMT
Totally agree with you PFT. I feel like I have to constantly water myself and my opinions down so to not become known as a big bad forum bully Seriously though, on the old forum we had a way of working, and new people would join and have to fit in with how the forum worked, or just suck it up and either get on with it or leave. That may sound harsh, but it kept the forum ticking nicely and we all felt that we could be honest and frank with each other. We've lost all that now :\ so, yeah, ruined for me too. |
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Post by SarahHound on Mar 27, 2013 12:22:26 GMT
Ooh I love a good debate! There's not been any threads I've seen so far to have a good argument, we need to create some I absolutely love this new forum, we need to do some sharing on FB to get some new members |
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Post by Pawsforthought on Mar 27, 2013 12:55:01 GMT
Haha, I like your thinking although I don't think most of us actually SET OUT to argue That would be funny though, I can just picture a thread: 'let's argue about Cesar Millan' and off it goes  |
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Post by scallywag on Mar 27, 2013 13:54:05 GMT
Am I the only one who feels as if I can't express my opinions quite as bluntly any more? Not that I want to shove them down everyone's throats, but I miss the feeling that I can debate about things without it hurting people's feelings. It might just be all the new members, and once I'm a bit more familiar with them I'll probably be back to my old moany self again  PFT I think we are all in same boat so to speak, us Newbies are watching what we say too, well I am, I am just watching and reading, joining in when I can, but feel it is a little clicky at times, but hey we are the strangers intruding and have to be patient to be accepted as part of the crowd. Sad thing about forums is that posts can be read and taken in wrong context, I too learned the hardway and like puppypal, and avansa I could not have put it better, if you don't like it get on with it or leave. There now I probably alienated myself  |
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Post by caz2golden on Mar 27, 2013 14:49:09 GMT
It must be intimidating for any new member . I guess it can be clicky at times . I hope all members find most of us a friendly crowd . I am still not really settling into the new forum, waiting for some real posts to give opinions on. At the moment a lot of the threads seem chit chat in type rather than being about info requesting / problems. It is now so big, lost that homely, friendly feeling. I guess until I feel comfortable I will not be posting as I did on the last forum. As for saying what I think then I think over the last year the age group of the forum has reduced a lot from mostly adults to mostly minors and this has an impact on what can be said, how it is said and what can be posted about. I guess I feel a responsibility to censor things I post about for the sake of the younger forum members as I have to think what I would want my child to see (not that I have any) if I was a parent of one of the children on here.
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Post by scallywag on Mar 27, 2013 14:55:56 GMT
Thing is, and I think I said this in private, but as we are all trying to be honest without offending anyone, I noticed that most threads are being Hijacked, and as you say by chit chat, nothing to do with what the actual thread started out talking about, sad really, I still am suprised that there are no MODs on here so the forum can be lead down the right track sooner rather than later )0; keep forgetting to reply rather than quick reply, no smilies can be added now and not re typing this LOL x
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Post by Pawsforthought on Mar 27, 2013 15:28:47 GMT
Totally agree with you Caz on everything you said.
scallywag - really don't want to alienate or exclude anyone who is new. It's tricky though because this is supposedly 'our' forum but because ALL of us are newbies now in a sense, it's messed up the dynamic between new and older members.
usually new members would have to acquaint themselves with the new forum and older members would be there to give advice. The new member would introduce his or her -self, and gradually we'd accept them as regular poster. Some would fall away and stop posting, and that would be accepted too.
Now, it's like old and new members are mixing together in a way I'm not used to or all that comfortable with. I don't feel like I have a right to say the YourDog forum is 'mine' at all, because it's just as new to me as to others, and I can't get my head around where I stand on things and what I have the right to do or say.
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It's not about not liking new people on here, it's the new situation.
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Post by caz2golden on Mar 27, 2013 15:32:34 GMT
I think that is an old forum trait occurring, bad behavior's die hard!  We do seem to start on one thing and the thread evolves over time! Though normally it makes sensible jumps and keep off the real chat chatting  . That's what the chit chat thread was used for on the old forum. |
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Post by tonib on Mar 27, 2013 15:52:12 GMT
I hope you don't mind an old YC member interjecting. I have been a member of forums on other subjects as well, so am basing my comments on that as well. I suspect that things will settle down as members (new & old) find their way around & the forum evolves. Also the YD & YC may have had different ways of working & as a benefit of the merger some members now post in both sections of this forum, a time of adjustment will be needed, after all its only been less than a week I agree that members should be able to voice their views/opinions & have them considered, possibly debated but never belittled. When voicing opinions it should be done calmly & politely and in a way that suits all ages. (That isn't meant as a comment on anyone's posts in this forum, just a generality). I would agree that hi-jacking threads is not the best behaviour, however if they are in the Chat categories (be it Cat/Dog/Pet/General) then there must be more leeway - it is chat after all. Also often there may be more than one way to achieve an end & perhaps we can all learn something from both old forums & also our completely new members and make this forum the best of everything There were a lot of members on the old YC forum who only every posted when they had a problem & vanished - that's fair enough but it would be nice to see them join it as well - the more information the better. Also there were members who only ever used the community area. Lets hope they find they like this new forum and will join in the posts as well. Its only my personal opinion but I hope you can understand what I'm trying to say, whether you agree or not |
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Post by scallywag on Mar 27, 2013 15:57:48 GMT
I can't get my head around where I stand on things and what I have the right to do or say. :/ . It must be hard for you all I agree, as for the above I would have thought everyone has the right to do &  about what they want to a certain point, and I am sure some people will get upset once in a while, and in it's worst situation you go back and delete your post , no point in it getting to a situation of   we are all on here for the same reasons because we want friendships, company, and love animals. And after all that  P S you may have noticed I use my smilies to make light of situations  |
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Post by Jademoo on Mar 27, 2013 16:03:38 GMT
I can see where you're coming from PFT. I don't mind a debate it allows people to put their own opinions across on different things which makes it more interesting. I just think it's a bit too soon to do that yet and we don't know everyone here that well.
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PFT I think we are all in same boat so to speak, us Newbies are watching what we say too, well I am, I am just watching and reading, joining in when I can, but feel it is a little clicky at times, but hey we are the strangers intruding and have to be patient to be accepted as part of the crowd. Sad thing about forums is that posts can be read and taken in wrong context, I too learned the hardway and like puppypal, and avansa I could not have put it better, if you don't like it get on with it or leave. There now I probably alienated myself 
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